Monday, 5 November 2018
15 lessons rich teach their kid but poor don't !!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcCG_zdAu6Q&t=670s
Friday, 15 July 2016
7 ways to talk to anyone !!
1. First word floodgates (3:33) "Once you've said the first word, everything just flows."
2. Skip the small talk. (5:20) Ask personal questions. Be bold, and you might be surprised how much someone might share. Asking about family might help elicit response. The lady gives a neat tip, and a neat story at (6:27)
3. Me - too's (7:34) Don't start with negatives. Start the conversation on the same side.
4. Pay a unique compliment. (8:45) Someone may forget what you say or how you look, but they would never forget how you made them feel. There are words and compliments that people are immune to. Avoid them and pay a genuine, unique compliment.
5. Ask for an opinion. (10:19) Ask generic questions like "what's your last movie and how did you find it?" instead of "what do you think about how this affects the oil prices?" That is the difference between generic conversations and exam questions. And when someone gives you an opinion, really listen; listen to listen, don't listen to reply.
6. Be present. Listen to listen, and not to reply.
7. Name, place, animal, thing. Remember their name, locations important to them, pets, kids, ... And repeat them back to them.
TED - 7 ways to talk to anyone !!
2. Skip the small talk. (5:20) Ask personal questions. Be bold, and you might be surprised how much someone might share. Asking about family might help elicit response. The lady gives a neat tip, and a neat story at (6:27)
3. Me - too's (7:34) Don't start with negatives. Start the conversation on the same side.
4. Pay a unique compliment. (8:45) Someone may forget what you say or how you look, but they would never forget how you made them feel. There are words and compliments that people are immune to. Avoid them and pay a genuine, unique compliment.
5. Ask for an opinion. (10:19) Ask generic questions like "what's your last movie and how did you find it?" instead of "what do you think about how this affects the oil prices?" That is the difference between generic conversations and exam questions. And when someone gives you an opinion, really listen; listen to listen, don't listen to reply.
6. Be present. Listen to listen, and not to reply.
7. Name, place, animal, thing. Remember their name, locations important to them, pets, kids, ... And repeat them back to them.
TED - 7 ways to talk to anyone !!
Questions No One Knows the Answers to
A graphical representation of the universe we live in and questions that we don't know the answer of. Since, we dont know the answer of those questions, this video takes you to a crazy assumptions of what could be the reality of our universe.
Bottom line is - Be curious !! All that we see may not be the only thing that's present and that's real.
TED Talk - Questions No one knows the answer to !!
Bottom line is - Be curious !! All that we see may not be the only thing that's present and that's real.
TED Talk - Questions No one knows the answer to !!
Saturday, 9 July 2016
Why I Procrastinate ?
Procrastination has potential !! Potential to make you stand at a point for years, without moving an inch. And then you need to convince your mind that you are doing good in life, better than many, coz that's the only way left to feel good.
Every procrastinator does that !!
And we all are procrastinators !!
So, what should we do about that ?
This Ted Talk talks about what exactly goes inside the mind of a procrastinator, and I never watched any video so revealing !!
It doesn't talk about how can you stop procrastinating, but it just gives you an insight of what exactly is going inside your brain, and now when you know that - what are you gonna do about it ?
TED TALK - Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | Tim Urban
Every procrastinator does that !!
And we all are procrastinators !!
So, what should we do about that ?
This Ted Talk talks about what exactly goes inside the mind of a procrastinator, and I never watched any video so revealing !!
It doesn't talk about how can you stop procrastinating, but it just gives you an insight of what exactly is going inside your brain, and now when you know that - what are you gonna do about it ?
TED TALK - Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | Tim Urban
Thursday, 5 November 2015
Reactions on my Atheism !!
And then I started reading. And more reading. And then, internet happened ... in a big way. I began to view things rationally and to not take things for granted, merely because they were incorporated into my life by my parents, family, and the vociferously vocal, theist society around me. I read and heard likes of Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Christopher Hitchens, watched several documentaries, debates, discussions and finally science made the most sense to me for the worldview. Its methods and validations were the most reliable and sensible. And even though it's difficult to pin it down to a specific date, I became an atheist and shunned all belief in the several supernatural deities and associated rituals.
Here is a testimony of how everyone around me reacted or is reacting on this ---
Mum and Dad
Society, they say, begins at your home. So, it's only fair I write about their reactions first. My mum, till date, doesn't understand where I drew my 'misguided' inspirations from, and probably believes that much like many other people in India, I believed in atheism for the wrong reasons, which includes 'being cool'. According to her, I am just an ill-informed rebellious kid. Even yesterday, she wanted me to organize a pooja at home for welcoming her grand-daughter. In short, my mum lives in a state of delusion, where she completely ignores my atheism. My Dad couldn't comprehend the very concept of "Atheism" as he don't believe in the existence of any 'human being' who don't believe in the existence of 'The Supreme Lord' who had created and now maintains this world.
Brothers
Well, all I could respond to that is -- "This is how it all starts !! " Plus, I have many more avenues to resort on in order to pay respect to my parents other than accompanying them in their delusion !!
Wife
My wife is an agnostic. Although I love to get into debates with my wife on the veracity of religions and the existence of God(s) and she agrees with me in most of my rational point of views, but she just don't want me to get indulge in any arguments with anyone on this topic (when this topic comes, even she considers discussions as arguments).
I have a sneaking suspicion that she would like to believe in some God to find out why on Earth she married me !!
Friends
As an atheist with differing opinions about many issues related belief in God, I occasionally get into discussions and arguments with my friends (if not them, who else?). Few take it pretty personally some times, and sometimes get annoyed that something they hold so preciously doesn't find a taker in me.
Some of my friends are pretty strong with fundamentals of religion and its intricacies (I have not even read Bhagwat-Geeta or any other scripture for the matter of fact).
I have had some arguments with these fundamentalists and my opinions were so blasphemous (but convincing) that it ended like this -
Some of my friends have another way of looking at life. They preach - Just dont think about anything. Just live your life. Just don't think of how this world operates. Just worry how your life operates. Just enjoy your life. Don't try to draw connection between our ignorance and surrounding atrocities. Close your eyes for what's going on around you. If you question anything, I mean 'anything', you are just 'overthinking'. Period !!
On the whole, I try not to deliberately flout practices that'll land me in trouble. Wearing sandals to temple, having loud conversations when somebody's praying, frowning when a colleague mentions that he's recently gone to a temple, having theist vs atheist debates at work ... you get the idea. I try not to be condescending of their beliefs, as delusionary as they may seem to me, and I notice that nobody goes out of their way to force their beliefs on me.
When it comes to other sections of society like uncles, aunts, family doctors etc., as of now nobody knows about it, but I know how their reaction would be like if they discover it somehow -
"Aaj kal ladko ka kuch nahi ho sakta hai ... 2-4 kitaab kya padh lete hai apne ko bhagwaan se uppar samjne lagte hai"
On the whole, the urban society that I live in lets me be, as long as I let them be.
However, you're constantly aware that people think you'd be finer if you were a theist, instead of being an arrogant, ill-informed atheist.
Atheist vs New Atheist
In western world, New Atheism is in rise. What is New Atheism ?
Its nothing but atheists coming out of their closet and openly accepting and declaring their new religion i.e. Atheism. They no more want to keep this fact with themselves and keep passing the falsehood about God and Religion to next generation. Some generation has to stop all these absurdities, then why not ours !!
Why I have chosen to be part of "New Atheism" and not "Atheism" ?
As I strongly believe, that existence of God is a man-made concept invented some thousands of years ago, and spread through word of mouth, generation after generation, and made this falsehood appear so real by making everybody around believe in it.
Hence I believe that this falsehood can be reversed by the same process in opposite direction, to convey the truth to next generation so that generation after generation the word is spread and maybe after few hundred generations, this falsehood is completely curbed and people again start living and stop relying.
I just want my generation in my family to be the last generation to grow up with "The God Delusion" !!
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